The bottom line is that love requires genuine effort. Cuddles and kisses go a long way toward making love last, but they aren't sufficient by themselves. Sometimes you need to get out and push (the car) [ironically, Dear's car 'died' before and couldn't start, I viewed it as a bad omen of myself being a jinx], if you want your love to keep going forward, which is why falling in love can occassionally be almost as exhausting as it is invigorating. This is one of the two main reasons why people turn their backs on love. It's hard enough taking responsibility for your own feelings, let alone looking after someone else's heart as well right?
The second reason people give up: FEAR. Fear of hurt, fear of rejection, fear of potential lovers who turn out to be evil people who take all the blankets during the night and squeeze the toothpaste from the middle. Fear is the #1 obstacle to falling in love. [I applaude for Dear for being so brave and confident to dare!]
But a little fear is not so terrible. In fact it is normal and healthy. Surely, no one likes to be naked and exposed or have their dirty linen hanging out in public.
The journey to true love is not as daunting as it seems. You don't have to lose yourself to find someone else. On the contrary, different points of view are every bit as important as the things you have in common.
Two Lives, One Love.
Your personality flourishes in a relationship, which brings out your best at home and at work. Falling in love means you still get to do everything that made you happy, but now you also have the joy of sharing those things with someone else. Plus, you get a whole bunch of bonus benefits as well:
~ to be continued~
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Yesterday and today
Yesterday went swimming with DEAR. Dear swam 20 laps and I did 13 half-laps (started at quarter mark and stopped at three-quarter mark). After that we went for lunch and went to Dear’s house, supposedly to look for a movie to watch, but ended up looking at his baby photo, more like toddler photo. Later, Dear sent me home to put out my swimsuit to dry. I invited him up to look at my baby photo. Dear found a few very cute and funny.
The one with many Chinese pastry (pong-piah) on my walker:
The one with many Chinese pastry (pong-piah) on my walker:
The grumpy girl on her one-year-old birthday:
After that, we went to walk in the malls, I had dinner and went for gamelan at NUS. Before dropping me off, we had a good time cuddling and kissing, not to mentioned that I discovered for myself what makes Dear “high”, haha. ;)
After that, we went to walk in the malls, I had dinner and went for gamelan at NUS. Before dropping me off, we had a good time cuddling and kissing, not to mentioned that I discovered for myself what makes Dear “high”, haha. ;)
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Today, Dear has to work. So I tried to tidy my house, threw away quite a bit of useless stuff, freeing up some space for putting things back into their proper position. Will work hard to make my house cosy because Dear is have a meet-parents session during Chinese new year.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Swim again
Today I went swimming again with DEAR. I wore the new purple swimsuit I blogged about earlier.
---feeling drunk after drinking two kinds of wine with parents, will blog soon---
---feeling drunk after drinking two kinds of wine with parents, will blog soon---
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
From the "Simple Truth about LOVE"
Love inspires us to do great, beautiful, terrible things and a bunch of weird and stupid stuff. That’s because when we fall in love, our reasons and perspective become distorted, and we discover the lovers’ paradox. Suddenly, we have clear purpose, but we suffer overwhelming indecision. The affectionate attention we receive means we feel more self-affirmed and radiant than ever before, and yet we are sick with self-doubt and insecurity.
Personal grooming also takes on a fresh energy, sometimes to the point where we change virtually everything about our appearance that turned our admirer’s head in the first place.
Though it is wonderful in so many ways, falling in love can be a very unsettling experience. Poetic torment churns in your soul and keeps you from settling. Whenever you close your eyes, the object of your desire floats across a dreamscape towards your waiting lips. (I don’t really understand why the lips.) In fact, the only time we really wake up to reality is when the new lover is actually approaching.
Unfortunately, at that exact moment, your molecular structure turns into water. You try to stay calm and composed, endeavouring to present a picture of charisma and confidence. You fail. (but I think it’s ok)
All those breathless secrets in your heat that you rehearsed a thousand times and are now ready to share gently with a tender ear, you suddenly blurt out, sounding like a race caller from an ancient civilisation.
Really think about your feelings. Run through a few emotional scenarios in your mind and see how they look and feel. There’s a reason we feel so shy when we first meet someone special. Both people are seriously checking each other out, looking for and revealing some very personal information. The process is all about trust. Slowly, we get closer and closer. Some things just shouldn’t be rushed, and love is always worth waiting for.
In its early stages, love is beyond wonderful. Each moment together feels like a passionate embrace in a magic forest. You gallop tirelessly in perpetual and blessed sunshine, your feet a few inches above the ground. In other words, our perceptions of ourselves and our beloved can become a touch idealised.
We tend to forget that Romeo and Juliet DID NOT, in actual fact, end all that well.
The truth is that love is always beautiful, and may even feel perfect. But it can never be so, not all the time. Falling in love is an exquisite but complex coming together of two individuals, and in a beautiful, dynamic living relationship always has some ups and downs.
The irritating thing about falling in love is that you don’t suddenly get transported to the mythical Kingdom of Coupledom, where everything is designed to make your relationship perfect. Two independently minded people usually have similar but slightly different needs, and these differences keep us on our toes. Surprises keep your love exciting and fresh.
Personal grooming also takes on a fresh energy, sometimes to the point where we change virtually everything about our appearance that turned our admirer’s head in the first place.
Though it is wonderful in so many ways, falling in love can be a very unsettling experience. Poetic torment churns in your soul and keeps you from settling. Whenever you close your eyes, the object of your desire floats across a dreamscape towards your waiting lips. (I don’t really understand why the lips.) In fact, the only time we really wake up to reality is when the new lover is actually approaching.
Unfortunately, at that exact moment, your molecular structure turns into water. You try to stay calm and composed, endeavouring to present a picture of charisma and confidence. You fail. (but I think it’s ok)
All those breathless secrets in your heat that you rehearsed a thousand times and are now ready to share gently with a tender ear, you suddenly blurt out, sounding like a race caller from an ancient civilisation.
Really think about your feelings. Run through a few emotional scenarios in your mind and see how they look and feel. There’s a reason we feel so shy when we first meet someone special. Both people are seriously checking each other out, looking for and revealing some very personal information. The process is all about trust. Slowly, we get closer and closer. Some things just shouldn’t be rushed, and love is always worth waiting for.
In its early stages, love is beyond wonderful. Each moment together feels like a passionate embrace in a magic forest. You gallop tirelessly in perpetual and blessed sunshine, your feet a few inches above the ground. In other words, our perceptions of ourselves and our beloved can become a touch idealised.
We tend to forget that Romeo and Juliet DID NOT, in actual fact, end all that well.
The truth is that love is always beautiful, and may even feel perfect. But it can never be so, not all the time. Falling in love is an exquisite but complex coming together of two individuals, and in a beautiful, dynamic living relationship always has some ups and downs.
The irritating thing about falling in love is that you don’t suddenly get transported to the mythical Kingdom of Coupledom, where everything is designed to make your relationship perfect. Two independently minded people usually have similar but slightly different needs, and these differences keep us on our toes. Surprises keep your love exciting and fresh.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Shoes...
Yesterday DEAR took me to Queensway Shopping Centre to buy sports shoe. In the end I bought a Reebok Premium Trainer II Mid, though I really liked the Premium Trainer Low. It was a good deal, priced at S$79.90, managed to get a 20% discount and ended paying S$63 for it.
The one I bought:
The one I bought:
The one I liked:
Today we went to play pool, for some reason I didn't really feel like playing after a very short while, probably PMS? DEAR's friend just had a one month old baby, so we went shopping for baby's present. It kind of feel weird but at the same time good. It's a feeling that is rather hard to describe.
Thursday, November 22, 2007
Free to learn
I have been staying at home jobless-ly for more than a month. Other than doing the usual dinner music on a ship that provides buffet dinner to its customer and I provide the music as part of a Trio, I basically am a good-for-nothing, not-earning-anything bum.
I think I should take the free time before I get a job to equip myslf with some skills. Perhaps I should build up more songs in my gig repertoire, choose more of those English, Jazzy, Lounge music kind. I should just grab some ready scores with jazz notation, learn how to read jazz chords and first practise a few popular songs, then transpose from my piano scores some of the more upbeat dance songs like tango, cha-cha, flameco and stuffs like that, since my aim to to get a better gig environment such as a hotel lounge.
Also since it would be too late to register for driving lesson now (reason being that there will be a little lag time between registration and actually starting of lesson, so I should always try to speculate in advance when is my free period that I can learn the fastest and get it done.) Hence, the best thing I might be able to do to build up some grounding might be to read on my own first, and also decide whether I want to do manual or auto, and also which kind of car I would like to save $ for, a hunchback or a bigger one that can transport my yangqin? The yangqin part might depend on whether I'd still want to be earning from gigs. The manual gear might mean I can drive daddy's van.
Anyone has ideas? or comment?
I think I should take the free time before I get a job to equip myslf with some skills. Perhaps I should build up more songs in my gig repertoire, choose more of those English, Jazzy, Lounge music kind. I should just grab some ready scores with jazz notation, learn how to read jazz chords and first practise a few popular songs, then transpose from my piano scores some of the more upbeat dance songs like tango, cha-cha, flameco and stuffs like that, since my aim to to get a better gig environment such as a hotel lounge.
Also since it would be too late to register for driving lesson now (reason being that there will be a little lag time between registration and actually starting of lesson, so I should always try to speculate in advance when is my free period that I can learn the fastest and get it done.) Hence, the best thing I might be able to do to build up some grounding might be to read on my own first, and also decide whether I want to do manual or auto, and also which kind of car I would like to save $ for, a hunchback or a bigger one that can transport my yangqin? The yangqin part might depend on whether I'd still want to be earning from gigs. The manual gear might mean I can drive daddy's van.
Anyone has ideas? or comment?
countdown to 23rd Nov
I am counting down to 23d Nov. Reason? DEAR is ending reservist that day which means we will (hopefully) have more time together to have fun and also to dicuss serious stuffs if necessary. Counting and counting, just one more day!~ WoHoo!~
Anyway I only have this little time left to accomplish my task of getting myself a pair of comfortable shoes. The Reebok Premium trainer lo is the last pair at BPP and alas, one white one yellowish so I didn't accept it. Went BATA on my way to NUS, power shoe not as comfortable though only $25, I guess I should spend a little more to invest in more comfy shoes.
Anyway I only have this little time left to accomplish my task of getting myself a pair of comfortable shoes. The Reebok Premium trainer lo is the last pair at BPP and alas, one white one yellowish so I didn't accept it. Went BATA on my way to NUS, power shoe not as comfortable though only $25, I guess I should spend a little more to invest in more comfy shoes.
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