BTO

OK, news update, recently we are talking about housing, Dear talked about whether we should start looking around for a flat, discussion about what I can accept what I’d prefer to have etc. Both of us were quite disappointed by the reality.

Reality: after application, need to ballot, if heng heng get it, will have to wait for the BTO flat to build for at least 4-5 years before we “get-the-keys”. Many questions pop up as a result of this. Should we move into parents’ home? (I negotiated a rotation between his and my house but figured out it’ll probably not work in Chinese families like ours, I feel so unfair I am stranded to have to adapt to his home while he can continue being comfy)Can we rent a flat without the landlord living with us? (Dear is acting blur cos he wants to try to get me to move into his house)

Questions and questions, quite irritating to think about them. It is a accepting to have to adapt versus paying even more money to live somewhere versus holding back the wedding. Totally disrupted my plans: 25-26 wedding by 29 have 2 children. Should I wait? Should I try to come up with workable alternative solutions to try to convince Dear to take up? Maybe I should just pay the money and therefore gain the rights to be in control of the situation… Why is he trying to pay for everything? To be at the upper hand?
Anyway those are my whining…. Whoever has ideas or better still have been through it or have heard people talked about how they did it (organised their lives after married before house is ready), p lease please please, talk to me, I am feeling very vexed.