Now I know what it means by hearts are linked

I do not mean to put Dear down by posting his problems. I shall keep it discreet for his sake of confidentiality.

It seems like Dear is having trouble getting out of his stress mode. He shouts at all of us not to force him, I have concluded when a man says this he needs to be forced to make a decision, either his own choice or we help him decide the best and force him to use the choice. It will at least take him out of his current loop.

I have decide to give him space and time to cool down. He is really in a mess, messier than I was the last time I was in a rough patch in my life, I could remember the painful decision I had to make to drop one subject in JC. Now he must have felt worse than me. So, parents if you are reading this, sometimes it is not always a good thing your kid grew up with a smooth transition with everything. I had to deal with my first failure when I was 17, lucky to have my dad who was though disappointed that I can't make it but still tried to look supportive. Thanks Dad.

Dads are the same, Dear's daddy must have been going through a hard time and I didn't make life better for him. From Dear's mum, Uncle was actually worried for me too. I felt so touched by his family and it further convinced me tha I want to stay on with him. His sister, though not quite knowing what's going on, gave me a hug and asked (though it sads me) "Xintian, why korkor don't come out see you? I love you Xintian." and she told her dad to also "sayang xintian"... How touching can that be?

I love Dear, I love his mum, his dad, his sister, his aunts and uncles. I love his family.